I’m talking with leaders these days about how best to approach people. It’s a mystery for some why they can work effectively, almost effortlessly, with certain members of their team but feel misaligned with others. It’s tempting when this happens to say: “it’s them, not me” and to just shrug it off as having different personalities or styles. Unfortunately, OD research shows that, within a team, it’s natural for a leader to have an in-group and out-group. Conscious leaders want to overcome their bias toward and against people and they want to have healthy and productive relationships with everyone.
I’m facilitating a Coaching Circle – a really diverse group of leaders from different industries and with varied responsibilities. We are talking about how leaders build strong relationships with others. One person in the group uses the new framework with a difficult peer, another in a team meeting, another with their boss, another with their teenager. Suddenly, something that is interesting on the page becomes tangible and real. We feel commonality in our leadership journey.
I love group coaching.
Most leaders, if they choose to, will admit that they get along better with some people on their team. True for all of us human beings. The good leaders I coach feel a responsibility to change that. They want to ensure the people with whom they “just click” aren’t privileged by it. They want to be fair. Rather than ask others to bend to suit their nature, good leaders know they need to adapt and respond to each person. Just as they adapt to changing market and industry conditions,
DisruptHR plans events around the globe. DisruptHR organizers say,” if you are an HR professional, a CEO, a technologist, or a community leader – and you’ve got something to say about talent, culture or technology – Disrupt is the place.”
DisruptHR events feature 14 speakers, 5 minutes each, and slides rotate every 15 seconds. The concept: Teach us something, but make it quick.
I was thrilled to share my views on ethical ways to engage with employees at the 3rd annual DisruptHR.
Along with a lot of the leaders I am coaching, I am finding myself stretched these days. It’s good to be busy, and busy tips easily into overwhelmed. The usual remedies – delegate, say no, set good boundaries, time-management, disciplined focus – only go so far.
I turned to this lovely passage from The One Who is Not Busy by Darlene Cohen. She is talking about how our way of viewing our activity is itself a source of anxiety.