Reading The New York Times interview with Elon Musk I wanted to say, Let’s coach. His description of the overwhelming amount of work and responsibility, and its personal cost, sounded achingly familiar to me. Many executives (and leaders at all levels) are struggling to meet the requirements of the job. Sure, some will dismiss his raw vulnerability as whining, especially under the lens of privilege. But I am glad to see the often hidden, dark side of success brought to the surface by such a visible role model.
Self-confidence can be a game-changer for leaders, and so it comes up in Coaching. Followers expect to work with self-assured leaders. Confidence is different than a “know-it-all” attitude: It’s more about feeling strong in your abilities. In every workplace, it’s not just about what you know that demonstrates leadership – it’s how confidently you lead when you don’t know.
For example, M. has taken on a new job, after being downsized from a 20-year career in a completely different industry.
Anxiety surprises us by arriving unexpectedly. Perhaps you are put on a significant project, or your new boss hovers too much – maybe team members bring their angst to you or a major customer isn’t happy. All the things that make your job exciting and interesting can also become overwhelming. Don’t just ignore your anxiety and hope it will go away. Here are some ways a leader can stay on track and weather the period of distress.
- Write it down –
Here’s what happened when I babysat a puppy lately. First, I learned to get my electric cords off the floor or risk them chewed right through! But the real lesson was in setting an alarm so I could take him outside.
Each hour my alarm sent me outside with the puppy for a few minutes. I didn’t take my phone because I had to watch to see if he “did his business”.
Here’s what I noticed:
- The hours went by fast and soon I worked a little harder to be productive before the next alarm went
- I sometimes stayed outside longer than puppy needed to – appreciating the fresh air and change of scenery
- I stood more and sat less,
1. Create a New Habit for 2017: A habit must have these elements to be sustainable – be a specific actionable behaviour that you can fit into your every day life. A good way to build a new habit is to replace an old habit, and to use the “I used to do this” moment as the trigger to do the new behaviour.